In our experience the following books are the best on abuse and abuse recovery.    

Transformation:  Contains two chapters on Bible models for abusers and recovery

Alternatives of Domestic Violence:  Workbook for Domestic Violence Groups (Secular)

Anger is a choice: A basic book about anger by a Christian author

The Anger Workbook:  The core underlying issues that cause long-term anger

Battered into Submission:  Covers Christian domestic violence issues

Boundaries:  The classical Christian book on establishing personal boundaries 

The boundaries workbook:  The companion workbook for Boundaries 

Helping Victims of Sexual Abuse:  A more general book about sexual abuse

The wounded heart:  The most in-depth clinical Christian book on childhood sexual abuse 

The wounded heart workbook:  The companion workbook for the Wounded Heart

Treating Childhood Sexual Offenders:  The most definitive book on treating pedophiles. 

Beauty for Ashes:  Joyce Meyers story of her recovery from sexual abuse.